September 24, Third Graders

I often park myself in the hallway between classes where I can get a breeze rather than stifling in the teacher’s lounge. It has the added benefit of siphoning familiar and unfamiliar students into my orbit.

The fourth graders come and stare at me, giggle, or gather like lost puppies in the scant five minutes. A fifth grader or two will come to ask me personal questions like one sweet girl who I just think wants my opinion on a video game…?

Sometimes the first graders part around me like the red see and I love to push their polite buttons by saying 안녕 and watching their helpless, knee jerk reaction to bow and respond 안녕하세요! back.

The third graders, whom I will see next year, have grown the boldest of all hall wanderers. There’s a girl who’s already given me a full introduction and a few others who like shouting hello at me.

As I trailed Jack out of the cafeteria today, one girl stopped me.

“Can you really speak Korean?” She asked in Korean. Aha, a classic test. Word among the third graders must have spread fast.

I ignored the fact that intermediate Korean hardly qualifies as speaking Korean but shouted yes anyway.

There was a moment where she asked more questions and I could not glean what she was getting at. Am I going to visit my parents? Are my parents American?

We eventually landed on what I interpreted to be her main point of interest which was, “can your parents speak Korean?”

Adorable, too adorable!

“They 100% can’t!” I told her. Only me!

The Korean language is a huge part of the national identity. As a language isolate that has existed since the 7th century, Koreans pride themselves on their unique tongue and long history; in essence, the same group of people have inhabited the Korean Peninsula since the Bronze Age.

As a result, when young kids hear a foreigner speaking English, they think of the national identity. Korean is not viewed as a international language, even though more people speak it than French, so their minds jump to putting me at halfway to Korean. It’s cute. Kids have that galaxy brain.

Recently I’ve been very hard on myself about classroom management and worrying every day that I might accidentally do something that traumatizes one of my kiddos.

One of my special fifth graders cried when it was his turn to play a high stakes game at the front of the class. I patted his shoulder and told him not to worry, he could take a seat. He did well with our writing activity later when I walked around the room. It broke my heart— I’ve never wanted to hug a kid so much.

I have a similar special kiddo in fourth grade and both of them are just so sweet and do their best. Ah, I’m gonna make myself cry right now!

This particular game is cutthroat and makes it very apparent who knows the content and who has slipped through the cracks. I put my arm around one girl and walked us through together. I had another boy repeat after me. Two boys on the same turn had no idea how to read and I ping ponged back and forth while they laughed at the silliness.

My last class was cut short when I helped two boys and another two in the back started fist fighting from their desks. The two seemed to calm down quickly but I couldn’t afford to keep my back turned and elected to cut the game short.

The computer had gone to sleep amidst the sliver of chaos and I didn’t know the password in order to throw up a much quieter writing game.

“Wait. I’ll be back.” I said to the class. I knew in their prepubescent minds they thought I had stopped entirely because of the two wrestlers and I felt the fear in their hearts when I left class to get their teacher. It brought me a little maniacal joy that they sat for a minute thinking the roof was about to fall in.

I grabbed the teacher from the lounge. The whole class had bated breath, until it was clear she just came to unlock the computer. The mood had markedly changed, though, and I expected that at least one kid would probably report the misdeed to their teacher.

There are so many split decisions I have to make without knowing the situation, the student, or the relationship. Korean kids are generally much more physical with each other which I have to keep in mind before I jump to touch-repulsed American school ideology. I don’t know who’s special and who’s just having a bad day.

I never want them to fear or dread English class. I want them to know that I make mistakes and that we are a team.

Some classes are tough. But even then, those kids especially like to follow me around or yell at me from down the hall or show me their Pororo pencil case.

I looked out over my fifth graders, even the class that had been stopped, and just felt a swell of affection for my cute and passionate little gremlins. I love them so much and I’m so lucky I get to hang out with kids every day.

September 23, Uh hi?

After a strange day in which a disruptive sixth grader turned out to have secret English skills all along, I parked myself at the local cafe where I have a points card to prepare for my online Korean class.

The cafe has huge windows along the front wall that look out over the sidewalk and main street. Sometimes I see my students walk by. Other times I have fun people watching.

I need to get the secret to how these windows are cleaned.

I was working diligently in the corner and sipping my latte sans mask so all passerby were able to see my full foreignness in the window.

I looked up from my workbook to see a big kid and his parents. There was no cute little uniform that usually differentiates the elementary schoolers from the older kids, so I guessed he was a sixth grader, just not one of mine.

He looked at me. I looked at him. He kept staring so I tilted my head as if to say, may I help you?

Bringing our staring contest to an abrupt end, he waved energetically which shocked a laugh out of me and I waved back. His mom and dad, who had witnessed the entire brief exchange, bowed to me through the glass as if to say, “thanks for humoring him” and also “sorry about that”.

I sat in a glow for several moments more before a public bus full of high schoolers stopped at the light.

Would lightning strike twice?

Two boys stared at me through the bus windows. No tinting marred our view so I decided to wave. The boy closest to me with short hair and glasses (a description that fits half of all Korean boys) immediately waved back and I looked down at my book so they wouldn’t see me laughing.

I also caught a young male duo staring as they headed west, and I made uncomfortably long eye contact with a dad and toddler heading east.

I wiped my face frantically. Did I eat my cookie too ravenously and spread chocolate all around my mouth like a puppy that found the peanut butter jar? Or like that time my baby brother played bop it with an open tin of cocoa powder?

Y’all didn’t pay attention to me for eight months and now you stare? Something must be in the water. I can only hope this means we are finally re-calibrating and, for better or worse, I’ll once again be the unmistakable and unavoidable token foreigner. Well, once I fight the only other foreign woman I see on my walk to work for total dominance.

September 13, 털

The sixth graders were more chatty and disruptive today but I don’t take it personally anymore. If I have to stop class five times so that they can calm down from Mountain Dew or hormones or whatever, so be it.

In my last class of the day, one girl stopped me as I was walking around checking writing.

“Teacher, 털!” She said, excitedly pointing between the dark hair on my arms and the matching dark hair on hers. Very few of my students have any noticeable arm hair.

“Hey, you’re right! Arm hair! Woohoo!” We bumped our arms together in a hairy high five approximation.

I decided a long time ago that society already made me shave my legs; I was not also going to willingly shave the perfectly soft and harmless hair on my arms. Last week, a fourth grade girl even pet my arm in fascination, like it was a small animal.

I do on occasion get embarrassed because, like many of my physical features here, it’s a standout.

But in a weird way, I’m glad my students get to see it. Representation matters, and there’s at least one girl who can feel comforted knowing her amazing and fabulous teacher lets the arm hair fly free.

September 11, Break My Heart

We had the second debate class of this semester and were once again let down. Jenny reprimanded the students for failing to show up, and told them “I’m afraid that because of your insincerity this program will be canceled next year.” There was a smattering of apologies and promises but a leopard can’t change its spots.

Three overslept, one had a fever, and so our only attendees were the student VP, who was the sole attendee last time, Hyunyung, who was the sole attendee the day we went to the museum, and my son, boy #3 who I was surprised to see.

It was tough. Really tough. No matter what I prepare for the first hour, it’s always too difficult. I think I’m just not qualified for this. I can do one on one, I can do one on thirty, but I cannot do one on three kids who can’t or won’t talk.

I mentioned to Helen this week how tough it was getting the high schoolers to string a sentence together and she said if our debate class was in Changwon proper, rather than our small suburb, kids would be chomping at the bit to have a chance to practice with a native speaker.

Instead, I spent an hour guiding our trio through Would You Rather and one round of Madlibs.

During the second period, the kids were supposed to present one feature of Korean popular media. Hyunyung had forgotten her paper.

Boy #3 talked about the dark side of idol culture and the VP happily gave an overview of the group Seventeen, who you may remember was a favorite of one of my Seoul kids.

But that wasn’t enough to fill an hour, obviously, so Jenny and I tried to have a discussion and extend the topics.

It was like pulling teeth. Boy #3 blasted the “foolish government” and had some good insight about the movie Parasite while my other questions mostly fell flat: do you BTS faces challenges overseas? Did you watch Crash Landing on You? Was this artist better or worse in the past?

During the third period, Jenny left to pick up fast food for the kids which was her attempt to entice more people to show up (it didn’t work).

She had us play a game while she was gone and I felt a strong, intense cloud around Boy #3. I know that he and his girlfriend broke up over the summer, and I was worried upon hearing his strong feelings about politics. As I’ve mentioned, many politicians are using grievance politics, particularly misogyny, to stir up young male voters. As he just had his heart broken and is also facing an unpleasant mandatory military service, he is particularly vulnerable to this kind of politicking.

Jenny saved me from trying to have any more conversation when she showed up with a huge bag of fried chicken sandwiches.

I recognize that part of disappointment with this class stems from my larger frustration with Koreans being so terrified of speaking English with me that any possibility we have to grow closer remains a fantasy.

It came time to take of our masks and I didn’t want to. Why? I asked myself.

It felt horribly vulnerable and intimate to look and be looked at without half my face being covered.

The kids also seemed a little reluctant to peel off their masks but when they finally did I was surprised again. It’s impossible to guess what anyone will look like, but I’m always caught off guard by just how different people are.

My son put his mask to the side and I did too. He’s so young. The girls are so young. They’re really just babies. And for all the interesting and big-brained takes my son has, his face was a particular shock. His was a vulnerable, small, heart-shaped face.

That’s why I felt particularly affected when Jenny translated that he wants to drop out of school. If he gets into his mechanic program, he’d rather just go full time and start working.

Jenny told me to tell him not to drop out.

“At least finish high school. I know in the US it’s really tough to get any job without a GED.”

I thought again about what Helen said, that kids in the city proper fight for the best hagwons and compete for academic opportunities. And here I was, on the other side of the mountains, trying to convince my favorite student not to drop out of school.

After three hours of trying to get them all to talk, it was just too much.

My son tried to bust out of class without saying goodbye but Jenny corralled him and made him bid farewell to me.

I passed him when leaving the school and he seemed surprised to see me in my car. I waved goodbye to him as he was caught in a half bow.

I didn’t cry in the car but it was a near miss.

September 8, New Friend

It was in the teacher’s lounge of my travel school that I finally talked to the highly regarded 6-2 homeroom teacher. Yana had spoken highly of him for turning around the behavior of the homeroom class– compared to the zombie-like apathy of 6-1, 6-2 is a delight.

I only knew him to be young and aggressively polite; outside of 안녕하세요 we hadn’t spoken. Until this day.

I scooted by him to fill up my paper cup with water and he greeted me in English. It was a miracle I didn’t drop everything in surprise. No one willingly speaks to me in English.

Realizing that he had already passed the first level, I pushed to see how far I could go.

“Is that an iPhone?” I asked.

“Oh, yes it is.” He answered in crisp, clear English.

Level 2 cleared.

The first seal holding back the dam of all my unsaid conversations clicked open. I told him that my other students always think I’m some rich person but that the truth is in America my iPhone was cheaper than a Samsung. He reacted with appropriate surprise and the second seal was broken.

“There’s a question I always wanted to ask you,” he said.

I startled in surprise but sent him the go ahead.

“Where are you from?”

Seal number three was blown off the hinges and the flood burst forth. I can’t tell you what all I said, I temporarily blacked out from the overwhelming joy of speaking freely.

I just know that I concluded with a parable about the dangers of releasing exotic pets into the Everglades.

“There’s a picture of an anaconda that ate an alligator.” I said into his shocked face.

He didn’t stop my tirade and he laughed at all my jokes. My whole body pulsed light and I thought, I think… I just made a work friend.

While Yana is kind and Jenny is accommodating, none of my coworkers are on the same wavelength. “Anthony”, as the 6-2 teacher himself told me to call him much to my surprise (never met a Korean “Anthony” before), is around my age, younger I think, and also shares my single brain cell. He is also better at speaking English than all my English teaching coworkers.

It feels like a thousand years since I’ve had a friend I could tell ridiculous stories to for laughs. There’s usually an age barrier, or a language barrier.

Most of the time, I have to tailor my English to varying simplified levels for the other people in my life. It’s an unspeakable delight to let my mouth run off without facing blank stares; there’s nothing so depressing as wanting to laugh with someone only for them not to understand your joke.

There’s only so much laughing I can do for two.

I ran into Anthony again ten minutes before quitting time and couldn’t help but talk his ear off. I didn’t even get around to printing what I had come in to print.

“Do you like sashimi? If you want, you, your coteacher, and I can all go to a famous restaurant near the school.”

Thank you, Anthony, for being considerate enough to invite another female coworker.

I spent the rest of the day plotting how I can hang out with him often but without sending any romantic signals. Platonic friendships rule in this house!

No hetero, Anthony, but can we be best friends?

September 6, Surprise

Some days with sixth grade with hard, and some are entertaining like today, where the kids are juiced up on what I can only assume is pre-puberty hormones.

We started to learn about frequency, and I had them offer their own crazy sentences:

“How often do you poop?”

“How often do you lie to your mom?”

“How often do you fart in someone’s face?”

“How often do you punch your friend?”

I weaved through the desks to the tallest boy in class who sat up ramrod straight in shock. He’s a good kid, and so so easy to ruffle.

“So, how often do you punch your friend?” I held out a fan of cards and he drew a six of hearts.

“Six times… a day.” He said evenly. The class erupted into entertained shouts.

Later, I noticed that same tall boy air punching his friend and stopped mid sentence to look at him. The timing was just too good and I was going to capitalize on this comedic moment.

The entire class also stopped and turned in his direction. It took him a few more seconds of shadow boxing to realize thirty people were staring at him.

“How often do you punch your friend??” I asked him in mock outrage. The entire class burst into laughter and even from the front of the classroom I could feel his entire body go red.

I found his embarrassment delicious; torturing the sixth graders in this way gives me great joy.

I also became culturally relevant again. As I prowled the back of class looking for a victim, one girl had a mini calendar with k-pop boys I don’t know well.

“Who are they?” I asked, pausing my hunt for a student to pull a card.

“Idol singers,” she replied.

“Yes, I know,” I laughed, “which group?”


Well, it looks like I can relate to my students after all! BTS has lost popularity with the new elementary kids in favor of newer and ever younger idols, but I could shine here.

“Oh? I went to their concert.”

She and the friends around her flipped out. It is a weird coincidence. I only went because a friend invited me along and I love the energy of kpop concerts. I should have gone to more before COVID…

“Yep, before COVID.” I moved on to my next victim, then suddenly sung a few bars of the only song I can remember, “I don’t speak in English, yeah yeah, oh oh”. They were even more shocked and I felt smugly proud about having some relative experience to share with the youth.

And in another surprise twist, Jack paused eating his fried rice to talk about the news.

“I just don’t understand how they can treat women like cows or pigs,” he commented about the situation in Afghanistan. “Don’t they have mothers?”

“Maybe it’s because they feel weak so they treat women poorly to feel more powerful.” I said.

“I’m a feminist,” he said simply and I blinked in surprise. The word has been twisted by online misogynists to be a slur; see their attempt to smear An San, the Olympic gold medalist in archery.

“Men should protect women and girls and children,” he continued.

Well, this was not the way I ever expected lunch to go, but I’m so happy to meet a man that’s straightforward in his belief of equality. Now if only we could convince 70% of Korean men in their 20s to agree

August 31, Goodbye VP

After a morning of technical difficulties in my first attempt at teaching online, and last as our school will go back offline next week, I spent the afternoon watching documentaries.

About halfway through the one about the attack on the US Capitol, Jack looked over my shoulder quizzically. He couldn’t read the title card and watching clashes between people in riot gear asked me, “is that Afghanistan?”

I sat with the entire weight of the implication from his statement for a moment before answering, “No. It’s from the US Capitol siege.”

He looked at me blankly.

I couldn’t explain the enormity of it all and just repeated, “in the US.” He had no idea what I was talking about then the clock hit 4:15 and he was packing up to leave.

Helen trailed out soon after leaving me and the chatty sub, MJ.

MJ is the MVP.

I started to pack up, too, when she told me that today was our vice president’s last day. He had finally been granted transfer to Geoje, which is where he had been commuting from every day. I know from experience it’s at least a one hour commute plus a 5,000 won charge each way to cross the mighty bridge.

Every day our poor VP was paying nearly ten dollars and sitting for two hours in the car to work at our school.

“We should say goodbye to him. Let’s go together,” she offered and I have never been so grateful.

We walked across the hall and into the teacher’s office. The other ladies working warmly greeted us, and I know most of them already from hallway interludes or the one occasion over the summer I asked to borrow a vacuum.

I didn’t know quite what to say in Korean so I gave him my thanks in English. He looked between MJ and I and admitted he didn’t know English well.

I was stumped– I knew he was finally getting a job closer to home, and wanted to congratulate him. But he didn’t know that I knew that, and it might seem rude of me to congratulate him for leaving.

What I came up with, in my infinite genius, was:


A Konglish catch phrase that means “you can do it!”

He laughed and repeated it back to me, then spoke briefly to us. I think the gist was, “I didn’t know you well but good work.”

I recovered my senses and managed to bow deeply and say 수고하셨습니다 which is a standard farewell and roughly means “you worked hard”. It’s also used as a farewell in the imperative tense when one is going off to work; MJ says it to me when I’m leaving our office to teach the kiddos in the morning, and uses it in past tense when I get back.

If I think about it, MJ might just be a polite person in general. She has a sort of Southern grace that the women in my family carry. Maybe some of it comes from the fact that she has two preteen children.

We left the office after another goodbye and walked out of the school together to part ways at the road.

“Bye bye!” she said, taking a sharp left to find her ride (her husband).

What a great lady.

August 25, Andong

The aftermath of a getaway trip to Andong: the tendons in the top of my feet hurt. Did the mannequins at the museum curse me?

Even though Andong is just an hour away from Gyeongju, the vibe could not be more different. Andong feels like a secret buried in the mountains, and many of the historical sites are tucked in valleys or next to cliffs– cliffs! I didn’t know Korea had cliffs.

Andong looks different than any part of mainland Korea I’ve seen so far. The river that runs all the way through town cuts an impressive edge, so much so that I had to research if it was manmade. The land stops abruptly at turquoise green water.

I want to buy a house there.

Also unlike Gyeongju, this was a solo trip. I’m sorry to all my friends but I love solo travel. I can eat when I want, sleep when I want, and find myself in the most unexpected of situations.

For example:

I had planned to visit the Confucian Academy for history and moreso because it was a filming site for a drama I’ve been streaming. But I didn’t realize there was more than one ancient Confucian academy and ended up an hour away from downtown at an impressive village which turned out to be the home of an extremely important scholar.


I peered into an old well, stared at a lotus garden, wandered in and around old libraries, and pretended I could read the hanja house plaque the man himself had written five hundred years ago.

A woman with a badge framed by her umbrella like an old Christian saint stopped me. I briefly wondered if this was another cult initiation attempt.

She asked if she could explain the history of the place to me, and noting I could understand her, proceeded in Korean. I don’t know history words very well since I am but an intermediate student but I followed along better than expected. When I recounted to my teacher in Busan that I had understood about fifty percent, she cheered.

I noticed with some surprise that she referred to Toegye Yi Hwang, the man of the hour, in referential terms. Was she perhaps a Confucian scholar and daylight tour guide? She asked me to procure a 1,000 won note and I thought, oh here it comes, some sort of scheme. But I acquiesced, curious to where this was going, and she pointed out that the man on the bill was the esteemed scholar of this domain and teacher at this academy centuries ago. I put the note back in my wallet with no attempts on her part at trickery. She proceeded to lecture and I listened without worry.

Creatrip: The Won-derful History Of Korean Currency
The only bill that ever seems to be in my wallet ㅠㅠ

“You know, King Sejong invented Hangeul in 14xx.”

“What?” I asked dumbly, slow on Korean numbers still.

Like Confucian students used to do, she picked up a sharp rock and wrote the year in the wet dirt between us.

I held back a laugh. King Sejong invented the great Korean writing system in the 15th century, but nobles refused to use such easily accessible script and continued recording all important documents in Chinese script; Korean, like many other languages in the region, used Chinese characters to write its own language. So in order to study Korean history, you’ll likely need a degree in Traditional Chinese to read documents before Hangeul came into widespread use after Japanese occupation.

I asked if any women attended this school, already knowing the answer.

“They didn’t. Scholars believed female students would cause distraction for male students. But the first school for women was established in 1910.”

I didn’t comment that this was likely due to Japanese imperialism. Part of me felt frustrated at history, and part of me was personally frustrated at Korea because I imagine I would have been, among the many jobs of Korean past, a scholar. But as a woman, that would have been completely off limits to me. My impossible dream, ruined by reality!

That was a theme for the two days I was in Andong; at the Confucian museum, at the Folk History Museum. It felt like all dioramas and plaques could be summed up as “Here, you can see the lives of scholars, nobles, archers, novelists, poets, painters. Oh and women were there too, in the kitchen.”

I felt incredibly sad for my female ancestors. How much had we lost by valuing women as tools rather than tool makers? What amazing inventions and discoveries might we have had if girls were allowed to attend school and give counsel? And then I felt a creeping fear: for so long, women had so little. Our freedoms were gained so recently and I realized, could be lost so easily, too.

If women had been relegated to a single job for most of history, what tenuous thread was keeping us from falling back? Was there a near future where I would lose the life I know?

I hoped that my female ancestors, in spite of their few choices, lived joyous lives. And I hoped that I was doing well to honor their memory by making my own choices.

Luckily, the parade of my thoughts was stopped quite literally by the museum attendant.

“You should try going to the VR experience center,” she said, gesturing from the massive lobby of the Confucian Museum to another stone building on the right.

Why not?

I wandered to the VR center, unsure of what to expect, and even then, I’m sure I couldn’t have imagined the following scenario.

Another older woman behind the counter greeted me, then led us into a room with a giant screen. She showed me how to play a game where we threw plastic ball pit balls at a screen to kill various monsters. I thought she would leave but seeing as I was the only person in the museum, and maybe the only visitor she’d had all day, we played together til the end.

She then hooked me up to a VR station where I followed a guiding voice that took me on a very boring tour of the archives of the museum. Literally just looking at shelves. It didn’t need to be VR and was in fact probably made worse by overusing technology.

I thought the experience would blandly end there but the woman, much like the woman at the academy, saw a secret flashing “teach me!” sign over my head and led me through the museum, explaining in Korean how books used to be painstakingly made over three generations because wooden printing blocks were carved by hand.

“It took a long time and a lot of money. It was usually the grandchildren who could finally release the original author’s work.”

So then only rich people could publish books? I asked. She seemed confused.

She took me next to the window where we could peer in at hundreds of old hanja house plaques and wooden book plates.

“This is read from right to left,” she explained. I was surprised. Modern Chinese is written from left to right like English.

We were interrupted suddenly by a young guy who was too good looking to be working at an exhibit an hour away from any city but I supposed he might have been a student at the Confucian Studies Center attached to the museum.

They say Japan had ninjas and Korea had scholars.

The young guy continued down the hallway with his iced coffee while a door bell tinkled and voices of kids floated up the stairs.

“I’m sorry, there are more visitors. Please take your time to look around the museum,” my impromptu guide said, leaving me alone on the second floor.

This time I was thankful that many of the displays didn’t have English subtitles because I did not have the focus to concentrate on reading any more signs.

I finally weaved my way out of the museum, handsome man long gone, and drove down the two lane road to my next destination.

I wandered through a village then drove down from the mountains to the longest wooden bridge in Korea. There were only a few restaurants to choose from and I ordered Andong guksu from a local place run by a clan of older women.

After I tossed my shoes onto the shelf outside, I made my way barefoot through the restaurant and ordered. The woman complimented my pronunciation and looks then we chatted a bit about how long I’ve been in Korea. This was the first of many times I had this conversation in Andong, and it was nice to be treated as a tourist.

The news of a foreign woman speaking Korean and eating enough for three must have made its way to the kitchen because suddenly a short woman with short cropped hair and the biggest BDE appeared at my side to ask if I wanted a shot.

“I want to but I have to drive,” I lamented.

“Aw shucks,” she said, then appeared five minutes later to ask if I needed water, which was already on the table.

When I finally stuffed as much as I could into my belly, which was not even half of what I ordered (the perils of solo travel), I exited the side dining area to find the three women chatting at the table by the register.

Ms. BDE complimented my good skin and I told all three ladies that they were pretty. Women support women!

We talked some about the drive up here from Changwon and I extolled my love for Gyeongsang people. It’s not a trip unless I can get a dig in about Seoul people. Listen, I love my old coworkers but it’s true what they say about city folk!

I left feeling warm and fuzzy then drove through extreme darkness to get to the hanok for my overnight stay. The roads were narrow and I feared sliding off the dirt road and into the river.

I finally made it to the UNESCO house and slept solidly on floor mats while listening to the sounds of nature. The next morning, I was able to greet the owner fully and we shared coffee.

Now here is a lesson I learned that day:

Speaking Korean opens doors but sometimes doors I would have rather left shut.

The two Korean college girls studying architecture also shared coffee with us in the open air courtyard though the male hanok owner and I dominated most of the conversation. He insisted on taking pictures for me which was useful because otherwise I would have had not a single photo of me.

The girls, maybe with some foresight, headed out for the day and the owner revealed that he is drinking buddies with the superintendent of my county’s entire educational province. For a moment I considered asking him if there was any news about the predatory teacher who was being investigated, the superintendent would surely know, but stopped when he handed me his own business card.

“I’m a reporter for Daegu Ilbo.”

I keep up with Korean politics and know that Ilbo is an extremely conservative paper credited for stirring up controversy and misrepresenting news. One branch recently photographed Afghan refugees in the most unflattering light possible to dissuade people from accepting foreigners onto Korean soil.

But I shouldn’t have been surprised; Daegu is the conservative stronghold of Korea and also the starting point for the first mass wave of COVID spread by its local cult, the Shincheonji.

The hanok owner also begged me for English phone lessons. I told him it’s against my contract, and repeated myself when he insisted.

Sir, you cannot afford me!

In any case, I ended up with his business card and phone number. It’s best to collect contacts, however… unexpected they may be.

I made it out of there eventually, not without a handful of souvenirs and a sprig of applemint courtesy of the hanok owner, and spent the rest of the day hitting all the sites I hadn’t.

Most people seemed to flock to the traditional villages for Instagram photos because at every museum I visited, I was the only one haunting the halls.

Perhaps my favorite, though incredibly small, museum was the Traditional Food and Soju museum. It was a small three-room museum taking up the bottom floor of a musty building in the factory side of town. Part of the parking lot was taken up by an open shed with random equipment.

I shrugged and continued on; a lot of specialty museums on southeast America are set up the same way.

There were large dioramas and rows of glass cases filled with prop food to show meals of kings and queens, the drinking seasons, weddings, and more. The method to make fake food is incredibly interesting and I had already spent part of my earlier summer vacation watching talented women put together prop meals for movies and restaurants down one of many YouTube rabbit holes.

A man who was not the man that opened the museum doors for me asked where I was from and how long I had been in Korea. I engaged with him politely but not too much as I really did want to thoroughly examine everything in the tiny museum. I commend the translators for the signs as well; whoever wrote the English explanations did a fantastic job. The more popular museums have comprehensible but awkward to incomprehensible and alien English translations.

So I made my way through that museum, considered buying specialty Andong soju, then continued on. By the end of the last night my feet were rubbed raw from my wet sandals but that didn’t stop me from shopping. The young woman at the local clothing shop gave me a discount even though I didn’t qualify.

“This dress is thirty percent off only if you pay in cash.”

“Uh… I have ten thousand won?” I proposed, holding both out my debit card and the cash.

She acquiesced and new summer items were acquired.

Koreans seem to take a certain kind of shine to me which I recognize is 30% aura and likely 70% white foreigner. But I’ll take the magic where I can get it!

Just another day being haunted by Joseon era mannequins.

How to spend 2 days, 1 night in Gyeongju, South Korea

Gyeongju was the capital of the Silla which ruled from 57 BCE to 935 CE, and with the support of the Tang in China, it conquered and absorbed the kingdoms around it, thus toppling the era of the Three Kingdoms.

As such, Gyeongju is rife with historical treasures. It boasts tombs of kings and queens, ancient architecture, and historically accurate village restorations.

Each site is hyperlinked to the dedicated Korean tourism page which has further information about opening times, costs, and parking. See the map assembled by the tourism organization here.


Nearly all the main attractions are along the road running north into the city which made sightseeing easy for us as we had a car.

Namsan Mountain is to the southwest of Andong; Silla Arts and Sciences Museum along with Bulguksa Temple and Seokguram Grotto are to the southeast. Most of other other attractions are located within the same 2 mile radius in the city.


Bulguksa Temple (경주 불국사)

The temple is a bit far from the main downtown area. The site is sprawling with monks working on site in real time. There is no on-site exhibition or museum, but you can observe the many different buildings. Only one managed to escape complete decimation in the mid-century Japanese invasion; most other buildings were restored in the 1990s, as with many Korean historical sites. You can also do a temple stay here.

Time: 2 hours

Seokguram Grotto (석굴암)

Located 3km away by hiking or 9 by car from the temple, this smaller temple has a 3m tall Buddha facing the east.

Tomb of King Wonseong (경주 원성왕릉)

If you are coming into town by car, I’d recommend a quick stop to this tomb. Parking is easy and we were the only visitors. The path around the mound circled closely and you could get a much closer look than at the other tombs closer to town. There were also nice views of fields and mountains surrounding it.

Time: 15 minutes


There is alley after alley of beautiful and varied cafes and restaurants. Green tea ice cream, Japanese udon, vietnamese coffee, Thai noodles, Italian pasta. Eat lunch and then take a long stroll to digest… and then get dessert.

Time: 2-3 hours

Donggung Palace and Wolji Pond (경주 동궁과 월지)

This is best viewed at night. People come to take a stroll and photograph the famous reflection of the palace in the pond. As many of the old buildings have not been restored, don’t plan to spend too much time here. We came forty minutes before closing at 10pm and felt satisfied.

Time: 30 minutes to 1 hour


Gyeongju National Museum (국립경주박물관)

A must-see! There are more than four buildings on campus. The historical section focuses on the Silla dynasty which ran from the 57 BCE to 935 CE. The most interesting fact I learned is that servants used to be buried alive with the deceased king. Luckily, this practice stopped around the time Silla started to absorb nearby kingdoms that had more humane, Buddhist-centered customs. I also found the jewelry of the Silla king and queen to be exquisite and wondere, if they sold any replicas in the gift shop. Amazingly, they did not.

In addition to the historical section, there is also an art museum along with a special exhibition. Outside along the grounds you can find many pagoda pieces and ruins that were simply so numerous they couldn’t be fit inside a building.

Time: 2-4 hours, depending on if you prefer to browse or read in detail

Daereungwon Tomb Complex (Cheonmachong Tomb) (대릉원(천마총))

Directly north of the Gyeongju Historic area, this tomb complex boasts additional tombs as well as one that has been partially unearthed so that visitors can see what lies inside.

Time: 1 hour

Gyeongju Historic Area

Take a long stroll through these sprawling grounds to see the observatory, bridge, traditional village, and royal tombs.

Cheomseongdae Observatory: Built in the 7th century, this observatory was used to track the stars in order to understand the 24 seasonal divisions necessary for farming.

Woljeonggyo Bridge: This time, make sure to look down; you can see beautifully recreated flower pattern tiles. It’s the largest wooden bridge in Korea. Originally built in the 8th century and then burned down during Japanese invasion during the Joseon dynasty, it was rebuilt to current splendor in 2018.

Gyochon Traditional Village (교촌마을): The village is in the same area as the bridge, tombs, and watchtower. You can park on the long alley between the bridge and the village. There are a few restaurants in traditional hanok houses. There are also culture activities but unfortunately none when we attended. The standout for me was the old well where Princess Yoseok was said to have used. After she was widowed, she had an out of wedlock child with a monk whose appearance it seemed was orchestrated by her father. The monk was allowed to go swimming and then had to stay the night while his clothes dried. The rest is history.

Time: 2-4 hours

There are a few more sites to see that I did not personally experience but did take note of:


You can stay in a traditional hanok, guesthouse, or hotel; we opted for a small hotel called Mini Maison, about three blocks from the cafe area. There was a small parking lot on the first floor and additional street parking.

Checkout or AirBnB for more options.


If you need a muse, more ideas, or want to get a feel for what Gyeongju has to offer, check out these videos made by the local tourism organization. I find Imagine Korea, especially the fabulous dance videos, both entertaining and helfpul in identifying the top must-see spots of each city.


Gyeongju Tourism

Imagine Your Korea (search by area)

August 19, Musings

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A friend deftly pointed out that I have traded relationships for agency, albeit limited, when I switched schools. I am free to plan how I like, although unfortunately I have to ask Jack and Helen every week for a schedule since they seem reluctant to give me information all at once.

Towards the end of this semester Jack leaned over to me after Helen had exclaimed surprise in Korean of how far along in the book he was.

“We’re ahead so we can use the last four weeks for review,” he told me.

There is no “we” in this mistake, Jack, you were the one who told me what chapter to do every week! We also have T minus one week until the spring semester begins and I have no confirmation if classes will be on or offline, though to be fair that’s more of an Asia Time problem.

So while I have some agency in planning– those fourth graders WILL sing every class– I don’t have an S or C or H or G. I don’t need to be friends with my coworkers… but it would be nice.

As I sit in another week of contractually obligated desk warming during summer vacation, I try to remember it’s not all useless. I have A/C and internet access and with zero oversight, I can watch movies or study Korean or take my hour lunch on the other side of town.

Fall draws closer and I find myself falling into nostalgia. Was it really a year ago that I moved in with House Owner and Freshman? The crisp breeze, the slow and easy making of drip coffee in the morning, writing essays, studying at a cafe, sitting on the floor with my roommates until 2 in the morning chatting about anything. I miss those days.

Jinhae is nice in the sense that it’s small and is close to places I’d never think to visit, like all the small islands, which are much more accessible. But as fall begins, I find that I miss cafes and student life and more than one hamburger restaurant choice.

With the blink of an eye, fall semester is upon us. COVID keeps tearing down plans and thus I set up my house of cards with a shaky hand. Shall I stay? Shall I find a job in Busan? Shall I go back to school? Every time I go to place the last card on top, a stiff breeze knocks it all down and I have to start again.